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The Best Thing to Do

Ibn al-Qayyim had written in ‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188):


“…They say that the best worship is to do what will please the Lord at every time in accordance with what that particular time calls for.

So, the best acts of worship during the time of Jihad is Jihad, even if this leads to abandoning certain rituals such as night prayer, fasting, etc. In fact, this applies even if you are to not pray a complete obligatory prayer as you would in times of safety and calm.

And the best thing to do when you have a guest, for example, is to see to his rights as a guest and to preoccupy yourself with that instead of the recommended rituals you would usually engage in at the time.

Such is also the case in fulfilling the rights of your wife and family.

The best thing to do during the early morning hours is to be preoccupied with prayer, Qur’an, supplication, remembrance of Allah, and asking His Forgiveness.

The best thing to do when teaching a student or ignorant person is to completely turn your attention towards teaching him.

The best thing to do during the call to prayer is to leave whatever rituals you are engaged in and to occupy yourself with repeating after the one making the call.

The best thing to do during the five prayers is to try your best in carrying them out in the best possible manner and to rush to perform them right away, and to go out to the mosque – even if it is far – is better.

The best thing to do when someone needs help physically or financially is to busy yourself with helping that person, relieving his distress, and to place this as a priority over your private worship that you’d usually be engaged in.

The best thing to do when reciting the Qur’an is to have your heart and mind present in order to reflect over and understand it as if Allah is personally addressing you with it. So, to have your heart present to understand and reflect over it and to have the zeal to implement its commands is greater than the attentiveness of the heart of one who has received a message from the ruler to that message.

The best thing to do when standing at ‘Arafah is to exert yourself in being humble before Allah, supplicating, and remembering Him instead of fasting.

The best thing to do during the first ten days of Dhu al-Hijjah is to increase in worship, especially saying ‘Allahu Akbar,’ ‘La ilaha illa Allah,’ and ‘al-hamdu lil-Lah.’ This is better here than the Jihad that is not an individual obligation.

The best thing to do during the last ten nights of Ramadan is to stay in the mosque and to seclude yourself in it without mixing with others and being distracted by them. This is to the point that it is better than teaching them and practicing the Qur’an with them according to many of the scholars.

The best thing to do when you have a brother who is sick or dying is to visit him, attend his funeral, and to prefer this over your private worship or social activities.

And the best thing to do when a disaster befalls you or people hurt you is to fulfill the obligation of having patience while continuing to interact with them and not running from them, since the believer who mixes with people and is patient despite their harm to him is better than the believer who doesn’t mix with them and isn’t harmed by them.

And the best thing you can interact with them in is whatever is good, and this is better than to seclude yourself from them in such a case. As for bad things, it is better to seclude yourself from them in such a case. However, if you know that mixing with in this case will help remove or reduce the bad, it is better to mix with them than to abandon them.

So, the best thing to do in every time and situation is whatever will please Allah at that particular time and situation and to focus on the foremost obligation at that particular time and whatever it necessitates and requires…”

Have a true friend is better than...

                                               
Umar ibn Al-Khattāb radiallahoansaid:

"To be alone means that you avoid bad company. But to have a true friend is better than being alone."

(Adab Shar'iyyah 4/124)


Ramadan and the Salaf

Reference: http://alfawzan.af.org.sa/node/9840
Author: Al 'Allaamah Saaleh al Fawzaan


Question:
What was the state of the righteous predecessors – may Allah be pleased with them and have mercy upon them – in receiving this tremendous month? What was their guidance and what was their state? …
Response:
In the name of Allah the Merciful and Beneficent, wa ‘alaykum as salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu. May Allah bless you and bless what you alluded to in these two tremendous questions.
The first question regarding the state of the Salaf in Ramadaan; their state was inscribed in books that were transmitted with trustworthy chains of narrators:

  • They used to ask Allah the Mighty and Majestic to allow them to reach Ramadan before it came upon them. They used to ask Allah to allow them to reach Ramadan because of the knowledge they had of the good and wide spread benefit it has.
  • After Ramadan had started, they would ask Allah to aid them in practicing righteous actions during it.
  • After Ramadan ended, they would ask Allah to accept it from them, as Allah the Might and Majestic says:

    { And those who give that (their charity) which they give (and also do other good deeds) with their hearts full of fear (whether their alms and charities, have been accepted or not), because they are sure to return to their Lord (for reckoning). It is these who hasten in the good deeds, and they are foremost in them. }

  • They used to exert all their efforts in practicing righteous actions.
  • After completing these actions, they would be afflicted with worry; would their actions be accepted or not? This is due to their knowledge of Allah’s magnificence, and their knowledge that Allah does not accept any actions except those that are sincerely practiced for His Face, as well as being in accordance to the Sunnah of His Messenger.
  • They would not ascribe purity to themselves [1] for they would fear that their actions would be rendered void.
  • Their concern for their actions being accepted would be greater than the effort exerted on the initial actions, because Allah the Mighty and Majestic says:

    {Indeed Allah only accepts from the righteous}

  • They would free their time in this month for worship, as we have already mentioned, and they would minimize world related activities.
  • They would preserve their time to sit in the houses of Allah the Mighty and Majestic.
  • They would say to themselves; we shall preserve our fast and not backbite anyone.
  • They would bring copies of the Quran and review/study the Book of Allah the Mighty and Majestic.
  • They would preserve their time from being wasted.
  • They were not heedless or neglectful, as is the case with a lot of people today.
  • They would preserve the night time for the night prayer, and the day for fasting, reciting the Quran and other righteous actions.
  • They would not be heedless of one minute of Ramadan, rather not even one second of Ramadan, except that they would practice a righteous action.



[1] Review So do not Praise Yourselves 
السلف ورمضان
الباب: الصيام
:السؤال
عندي بعض الأسئلة السؤال الأول : ما هو حال السلف الصالح -رضي الله عنهم ورحمهم- في استقبال هذا الشهر العظيم؟ كيف كان هديهم؟
:الجواب
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته وبارك الله فيك وفيما نبهت عليه من هذين السؤالين العظيمين .
السؤال الأول حالة السلف في شهر رمضان : حالة السلف كما هو مدون في الكتب المروية بأسانيد الثقات عنهم :


  • أنهم كانوا يسألون الله عز وجل أن يبلغهم رمضان قبل أن يدخل يسألون الله أن يبلغهم شهر رمضان لما يعلمون فيه من الخير العظيم والنفع العميم .
  • ثم إذا دخل رمضان يسألون الله أن يعينهم على العمل الصالح فيه .
  • ثم إذا انتهى رمضان يسألون الله أن يتقبله منهم كما قال الله جل وعلا :

    (وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْتُونَ مَا آتَوْا وَقُلُوبُهُمْ وَجِلَةٌ أَنَّهُمْ إِلَى رَبِّهِمْ رَاجِعُونَ أُولَئِكَ يُسَارِعُونَ فِي الْخَيْرَاتِ وَهُمْ لَهَا سَابِقُونَ)

  • وكانوا يجتهدون في العمل .
  • ثم يصيبهم الهم بعد العمل هل يقبل أو لا يقبل وذلك لعلمهم بعظمة الله عز وجل و علمهم بأن الله لا يقبل إلا ما كان خالصا لوجهه وصوابا على سنة رسوله من الأعمال .
  • فكانوا لا يزكون أنفسهم ويخشون من أن تبطل أعمالهم .
  • فهم لها أن تقبل أشد منهم تعبا في أدائها لأن الله جل وعلا يقول :

    (إِنَّمَا يَتَقَبَّلُ اللَّهُ مِنَ الْمُتَّقِينَ)

  • وكانوا يتفرغون في هذا الشهر كما أسلفنا للعبادة .
  • ويتقللون من أعمال الدنيا .
  • وكانوا يوفرون الوقت للجلوس في بيوت الله عز وجل .
  • ويقولون نحفظ صومنا ولا نغتاب أحداً .
  • ويحضرون المصاحف ويتدارسون كتاب الله عز وجل .
  • كانوا يحفظون أوقاته من الضياع ما كانوا يهملون أو يفرطون كما عليه حال الكثير اليوم
  • بل كانوا يحفظون أوقاته الليل في القيام
  • والنهار بالصيام وتلاوة القرآن وذكر الله وأعمال الخير .
  • ما كانوا يفرطون في دقيقة منه أو في لحظة منه إلا ويقدمون فيها عملا صالحا . هذا عن السؤال الأول.



[1] راجع : فلا تزكوا أنفسكم

“Marriage is for Righteous Lovers”


“Marriage is for Righteous Lovers” 


Imaam Ash-Shaafi’ee rahimahullaahu ta’aalaa said,

“And from misery is that you love,
and (the one) who you love, loves other than you,
or that you want good for a person,
and he wants to hurt you.”

Al-Mahabbah (love) means fondness, tenderness and kind feelings, and inclination.

When love affects and invades all feelings of man, it is called passion
and when it gets so deep and irresistible as to burn with the desire of union, it is called fervor and enthusiasm.

Love has been defined as the relation of the heart with the Beloved One or trying to comply with His Commandments in all one’s acts and thoughts.

True love means that a lover is set solely on the Beloved and is always and inwardly with Him.

The heart of him who has such a degree of love always beats with a new consideration for the Beloved at every moment, while a lover who transcends himself with the wings of love and reaches his Lord at the points of enthusiasm carries out his responsibilities toward the King of his heart.

Love is based on two important pillars:

**The first is that which is manifested by the lover’s acts. A lover tries to comply with the Beloved’s desires.

**The second relates to the inner world of the lover, who should inwardly be closed to everything else unrelated to Him.

Every lover cannot feel the same degree of love for the Beloved.

Love varies according to the religious and emotional depth of the lover and
the degree of his consciousness of and care in his obedience to the Beloved.
And in whatever degree of love, one who turns to Him with heart-felt desires and sincere enthusiasm gets his reward according to the depth of his feelings and concern with Him.

Ibnul Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (rahimahullaah) also said in Madaarijus-Saalikeen (vol.3/ page 9 and pages17-18):

“People have discussed about mahabbah (love of Allaah); its causes and what brings it about, its signs and its fruits and its rulings. The most comprehensive saying about this is what Aboo Bakr al-Kattaanee (rahimahullaah) relates about al-Junayd (d.279H).

Aboo Bakr al-Kattaanee (d.322H) said:

“A discussion about mahabbah took place in Makkah during the Pilgrimage month. The Shaykhs who were present spoke about this matter and al-Junayd was the youngest of them. They said to him: “O ‘Iraaqee, what do you have to say?” So he bowed his head and tears were flowing from his eyes and he said:

“A servant should overcome his soul, and be continuous in the remembrance of his Lord.
Establishing the Rights of his Lord,
focusing upon Him with his heart,
the state of fear setting a blaze upon his heart.
Whilst drinking from the vessel of true love and certain realities become unveiled to him.
So when he talks, it is due to Allaah.When he speaks, it is from Allaah.
When he moves, it is by the command of Allaah and when he is serene, then it is from Allaah.
He belongs to Allaah, is for Allaah, and is with Allaah.”
So the shaykhs began to weep and said: How can that be increased upon? May Allaah reward you with good, O crown of the knowledgeable ones!”

“Al-Hamdulillaah, Who made Al-Mahabbah (love) a way to attain the Mahboob (beloved) and Who set obedience and submission to Him as evidence of true love of Him.

By Al-Mahabbah He stimulated the souls so that they may prefer to seek and achieve all kinds of perfection. Subhannahu wa ta’aalaa, Who by virtue of His Ability turns the hearts to Al-Mahabbah as He wills, to whom He wills…in detailed and specific measures…Subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa, Who favors the people in Al-Mahabbah of Him and those who love His Book and His Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam above all others, loving them perfectly and completely…”

[Rawdatul-Muhibeen by Imaam Ibnul-Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa.]

And the author of Qawlus-Sadeed rahimahullaahsaid,

“Know that the categories of Love are three:

First:=> Love for Allaah, which is the foundation of Eemaan and Tawheed.

Second:=> Loving for the sake of Allaah, which is having love for Allaah’s Prophets and Messengers and their followers. It also means loving what Allaah loves from righteous actions, times, places and so on. This category falls under the love for Allaah and supplements it.

Third:=>Loving something or someone along with loving Allaah. this is the love the mushrikeen have for their fasle gods and rivals, such as trees, stones, humans, angels and so on. And this is the source and foundation of shirk.”

[al-Qawlus-Sadeed of Imaam 'Abdur-Rahmaan bin Naasir as-Sa'dee rahimahullaahu ta'aalaa (pg. 112).]

‘Shaykul-Islaam Ibnul Taymiyyah said in Al-’Uboodiyyah:

“…The final level of love is at-Tatayyum.
Its initial level is al-’Alaaqah (connection) because of the hearts connection to the beloved. Thereafter comes the level of As-Sabaabah (craving, longing and desire) as the heart starts to crave for the beloved.
next is the love of Al-Gharaam (love, passion and fondness) which is the love that is inseparable from the heart.
Thereafter Al-’Ishq (ardent and passionate love) and
its final level is at-Tatayyam(enslavement, infatuation, captivation and adoration). One says, taymullaah (the ‘abd of Allaah).
So the mutayyam is the mu’abbad of his beloved.”

It was said in poetry: “Does not the lover think that his love can be concealed?
While his eyes are shedding tears and his heart is glowing, Had it not been for love, you would not have shed tears at the ruins (of your beloved), Nor would you become restless at the remembrance of the cypress (tree) at the high mountain, How do you deny love after the testimony, Born against you by (such) reliable witnesses as your tears and your illness. Love indeed transforms pleasure into pain.”

Ibn Hazm Al-Anduloosee rahimahullaah said inTawqul-Hamamah,

“And among the accidents of love is the violent anxiety and silencing intensity of feeling which overcome the lover when he sees the beloved avoiding him and eschewing him;
and the sign of that is sighing, and lack of vivacity, and sobbing, and having deep sighs, and on that subject I have made a poem, from which I quote:

“The beautiful patience is imprisoned,
And tears are bursting forth from the eyes!”

Such is the case for one who is attached to leadership, a soorah (image) or other such desires of the soul. If he attains it, he is pleased and if he is unable to attain it, he becomes discontented. Such a person is the ‘Abd of what he desires of these matters and he is a slave of it, since slavery and servitude in reality is the enslavement and servitude of the heart, so whatever enslaves the heart and puts it under its servitude, the heart will be the ‘Abd of that object. This is why it is said,

“The ‘Abd (servant) is free as long as he is content and the free one is an ‘Abd as long as he desires.”

Another has said, “I obeyed my desires so they enslaved me and if only I had been content, I would have been free.”

It is also said that desires are chains around one’s neck and shackles around one’s ankles, if the chains around the neck disappear, the shackles around the ankles will disappear.

Desires are like chains and locks preventing their perpetrator from roaming the vast garden ofTawheed and reaping the fruits of righteous actions.

Passionate love is a psychological sickness, and when its effects become noticeable on the body, it becomes a sickness that afflicts the mind also. The same applies to the heart afflicted with this ‘ishq(passionate love), for it is harmed by its connection to the loved, either by seeing, touching, hearing even thinking about it. And if he were to curb the love then the heart is hurt and grieved by this, and if he gives in to the desire then the sickness becomes stronger and becomes a means through which the grievance is increased.

Any person who attaches his heart to a creation for the purposes of aid, sustenance or guidance has submitted his heart to them and has given rise to a level of ‘Uboodiyyah of that creation in accordance to the level of that (attachment), even if it appears that he is their leader who organizes their affairs and manages them.

If a man’s heart becomes attached to a woman, even if it is a woman who is lawful for him, his heart will remain captive to her. She will rule him and manage him in any way she sees fit.

On the surface, he is her master because he is her husband or owner but in reality he is her captive and is owned by her. This condition holds even more so if she is aware of his need for her, his passion for her and that he views her as irreplaceable.

In such circumstances, shes rules him in the manner a forceful and oppressive master rules his subjugated slave, who is unable to deliver himself from his master. In fact, the condition (of a man attached to a woman in such a way) is much more severe (then the analogy put forward) because the captivity of the heart is more serious than the captivity of the body and the enslavement of the heart is more severe than the enslavement of the body.

Thus, freedom is freedom of the heart and’Uboodiyyah is ‘uboodiyyah of the heart, just as richness, is richness of the soul.

The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam said,
“Affluence is not the result of (possessing) the vanities of this world, but affluence is affluence of the heart.”
[Related by al-Bukhaaree (no.6446) and Muslim (no.1051).]

By Allaah! This is the case when the person is enslaved by a lawful soorah.

Al-Hawaa (the desire) is the inclination of the self to a thing. Its verb is Hawiyyah (past tense),Yahwaa (present tense) and Hawaan (infinitive). As to Hawaa and Yahwaa, they mean “fell down” and “falling down”, respectively, and the infinitive is al-Huwiyyu with the movement at the end being adhammaah, a vowel point for u.

Al-Hawaa also refers to beloved, a poet said (exaggerating the state of love between two),

“The one who took (over or control of) your heart, who is for her?

She was created to be your beloved as you were created to be hers!”

It is said that, “Such and such (a man) is the Hawaa (the beloved) to such and such (a woman), and that she is his Hawaa (beloved).”

As for al-Hawaa, the story of the captives of the battle of Badr, ‘Umar bin al-Khattaabradhiyallaahu ‘anhu said: “The Prophet Hawiyyah (liked) what Aboo Bakr said (he was more inclined to the position of Abee Bakr regarding the fate of the captives) and didn’t like what I said.”

Then he concluded the hadeeth.

In the Sunan a bedouin (Arab) asked the Prophetsallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam, “I came to you asking about al-Hawaa.” He replied:

“Everyone will be with those whom he loves.”
[That is in Al-Jannah (the Paradise, the Garden), and this is reported by al-Bukhaaree and Muslim in saheehayhimaa.]

Therefore, al-Hawaa is the inclination of the natural disposition towards what suits and benefits it. Such an inclination is created in man to secure his existence. If it had not been for his inclination to food, drink and marriage, he would have not eaten, drank or married.

Thus, al-Hawaa intigates and pushes him towards what he wants just as al-Ghadhab (anger) keeps away and averts from him that which will hurt him. Generally, therefore, al-Hawaa should not be dispraised nor is it to be absolutely praised just as anger is not to be generally blamed nor is it to be absolutely commended.

What is blameworthy is the exaggeration in both of these (al-Hawaa and al-Ghadhab), and what exceeds the limits in attaining the beneficial and in warding off the harmful (things).

The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) said,

“There is nothing for two (a male and female) who love one another like marriage.”

[Recorded by Ibn Maajah and it was graded saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaanee in as-Saheehah (no. 624) as well as others.]

Love is of two types as the scholars have defined,

1. Hubb (pure and natural love) and
2. ‘Ishq (passionately-sick and desirious love)

Ibnul-Qayyim rahimahullaah differentiated between Hubb and ‘Ishq.

He said Hubb was pure and noble love whilst ‘Ishq was a forbidden, beyond the limits type of love. He meant this was when someone would go to Haraam measures to be with the one they love.

And there are many reasons for falling in love, Ibn Hazm rahimahullaah described some of the reasons of love:

“If the cause of Love were physical beauty, the consequence would be that no body defective in any shape or form would attract admiration; yet we have known of many men who actually preferred the inferior type, though well aware that another is superior, and quite unable to turn his heart away from it.

Again, if Love were due to a harmony of characters, no man would love a person who was not of a similar purpose and in compatiblity with him. We therefore conclude that Love is something within the soul itself. Sometimes, it is true, Love comes as a result of a definite cause outside the soul, but then it passes away when the cause itself disappears: one who is fond of you because of a certain circumstance will turn his back on you when that motive no longer exists.”

[Ibn Hazm Al-Anduloosee rahimahullaah in Tawqul-Hamamah .]

Physical beauty is not the main cause of love, though yes it does help in falling in love and is a reason for love to grow between spouses. However, it is to be understood that Love cannot be limited to such, because if it were then there are many people that can never hope of getting married. In fact love is something deeper which comes from inside, a mercy that Allaah has placed into the hearts of His creation.

It is necessary for us who live in an environment surrounded by Haraam to check our reasons for our love, whether we are loving them in a pure sense for the sake of Allaah, even for our spouses or is it merely based on our desires and lusts. Lets make sure that our reason is the former.

Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah rahimahullaah said inAl-Jawaab al-Kaafee liman Sa’ala ‘an Dawaa’ish-Shaafee,

“As for loving women, there is no blame on a person who has love for them. On the contrary, it is part of his perfection (as a human being) for Allaah says
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has put Love and Mercy between you.”

Ibnul-Jawzee says in his Dhaamul-Hawaa:

“If you haven’t loved passionately or known the meaning of desire then get up and eat hay for you are nothing but a donkey…You and the hard rock are equal.”

These statements from Ibnul-Qayyim and Ibnul-Jawzee rahimahumullaah show that they not only considered love as something that occurs, but rather it is a sign of perfection.

So when you feel love for someone, do not consider it as a flaw in yourself, rather it is a sign that you have a heart and it is a sign of your humanity. This emotion that is felt shows that there is mercy in you and that your heart is soft.

Ibnul-Qayyim also said,

“When we speak of rulings of love, we must describe two things.
One is optional and one is not. The optional love is what leads to love (eyesight, association, etc.) and this is the love that you have to beware of (for it may lead to unlawful acts.) The non optional love, if it happens by the sudden look, or natural passions that develop, you cannot be blamed for it, but it’s how you react to it that Allaah will hold you to accountable for.”

In Faydhul-Qadeer Sharhul-Jaami’ as-Sagheer al-Munaawee rahimahullaah said:

“It is when a man looks at an Ajnabiyyah [unrelated woman] and his heart has desire of intercourse, then marrying her will result in increased love.’ This was mentioned by at-Teebee. And more correct than him is the saying of some of the elders that the meaning is that it is the greatest remedy to treat the passion of desire for marital relations. For it is a remedy that there is no equal for by any means. And this is the meaning which is indicated by Allaah, Subhaanahu, after making women lawful; the free of them, and the slaves of them due to need, by His saying:

“Allaah wants to lighten [the burden] for you, and man was created weak.” [An-Nisaa' (4:28).]

So by Allaah, Subhaanah, mentioning lightening in this subject and informing about man’s weakness, proves that he is too weak to carry this desire, and that He, Subhaanah, lightened its matter for him by what He permitted for him of pure women. And with this explanation it clarifies that the information relates to when he intends to propose to a woman, and he sees her and feels love for her, then it is legislated that he may plan to marry her merely based on what he saw.”

In Kifaayatul-Hajjah Sharhus-Sunan Ibn MaajahAs-Sindee -rahimahullaah said:

“It is, when there is love between two, then that love will not be increased by anything among the various types of means of drawing nearer, nor will anything make it last, like the marriage tie. So if they are married with that love, then the love will increase and become stronger with every day.”

It should be clear from the statements of these scholars that the objective here is to observe that when two people feel an attraction for each other – especially a physical one that instills the desire in their hearts to have relations – then there is nothing that is better for them than to get married.

And, that, as al-Munaawee noted, this desire itself is a sufficient sign that it is time to get married to each other, as opposed to the long drawn out micro-management planning that is common today.

All of this is obvious, because when two people desire to marry each other, and there is no legal reason to prevent them, then they should not delay in doing so unduly, and all of the Sharee’ah texts indicate exhortation for marriage whenever one is able to do so, and in this, that man is not able to bear the burden of such desire, so marriage has been made lawful to facilitate that, to remove the burden.

And this meaning is explained in one of its versions of the narration recorded by ‘Abdur-Razzaaq, inmursal form, and it’s Isnaad (chain) is saheeh (authentic), that Ibraaheem bin Maysarah said:

“A young man proposed to a woman whom he “loved” but they refused to marry her to him, so I asked Tawoos about that, and he said: “Allaah’s Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) said…’” and he mentioned it, and afterwards Ibraaheem said: “And he ordered me to marry.”

Regarding Allaah’s saying (which means):

“Allaah wants to lighten [the burden] for you, and man was created weak.”
[An-Nisaa’ (4:28). ]

As preceded – since Allaah mentioned that He wanted to lighten that burden, if He had not done so, it would be heavy, due to man’s weakness, and he would not be able to bear it, and that would not be just.

So Allaah has lightened the burden of desire from people, out of His justice and care for His creatures, making marriage lawful for them, and there being nothing better for two attracted to each other than it. So who is it that would make unlawful what Allaah has made lawful? And who is it that would place a burden on one whom Allaah has lifted a burden from, except an oppressor?

Then, one may find that people want to use thishadeeth to prove that a man and a woman should get to know each other well prior to marriage, for how else could they love each other prior to it?

And it should be clear from the commentary that the meaning of “love” in the hadeeth, is desire not the complicated concept of love that modern people intend.

So a man loves bread, and his love of his bread is similar, and at the same time not similar, to his love of his wife. When he is hungry and he sees bread, his desire to consume it increases until he does so. And yet, we call that, “love” of bread.

This is the type of love that is common through out this topic, it is present in the aforementioned hadeeth, and it is present in the man when he sees bread.

But man’s love for bread does not increase after he consumed it,
while marriage causes love to grow.

So the love that comes from marriage is not the same as the love (i.e. desire) before it. And this is obvious and common in normal speech.

Conversely, the modern evil concepts of marriage dictate, “We must get to know each other well prior to marriage.” While this has nothing to do with love, but “getting to know.” And knowing something is not the same as loving something. Then, it is no secret what this concept leads to, and even among Muslims.

So the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) did not say: “I have not seen anything for two who love each other like fornication.”

Rather, he said: “marriage.”

That is, marriage increases love and is from the various ways of attaining perfection, while fornication will only lead to anguish and humiliation in this life and in the Hereafter.

And Allaah Knows Best!

Complied by: ‘Abdur-Rahmaan Aboo Ruqayyah Aali Hayes, On Sunday the 8th of Sha’baan 1429 AH, Corresponding to August 10, 2008.


Ramadan and the Propagators of Doubt

Reference: alfawzan.af.org.sa/node/14028
Author: Al 'Allaamah Saaleh al Fawzaan


Along comes Ramadan and along with it Come the Propagators of Doubt
Allah has made the month of Ramadan a month for goodness, blessing and worship through a variety of actions. Tremendous historical events took place in Ramadan.
  1. Allah the Elevated said:

    {The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Quran, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion}

  2. A day that is better than a thousand months falls in it; which is Laylatul Qadr; Allah the Elevated said:

    {The night of Al-Qadr (Decree) is better than a thousand months}

  3. Allah obligated fasting during it, and the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم - established the Sunnah of the night prayer saying:

    "Whoever stands for the night prayer in Ramadan, out of faith and yearn for Allah’s reward, would have his past sins forgiven! "

  4. The Great Battle of Badr took place during it - the Day of Criterion, where Allah decreed the Criterion between truth and falsehood.
  5. During it, was The Great Victory, the victory over Makkah.
Therefore it is an obligation to know the merited status of this tremendous month, and people should busy themselves with righteous actions such as fasting, the night prayer, recitation of the Quran and ‘Itikaaf, as the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم – used to specify this month with a variety of forms of worship.
However, in this age of ours, a lot of people are negligent of this month.
  1. A group of them prepare media programs, most of which are a waste of time; such as soap operas, movies, comedy shows, competitions and other shows.
  2. Another group busies themselves with the varieties of food and drink. They turn Ramadan into a month of eating, drinking and staying up late at night instead of being a month of fasting and prayer. They stay up all night and sleep during the day. They abandon praying the obligatory prayers in the Masjid at their appointed times and neglect them:

    {Then, there succeeded them a people who have given up the prayers and followed lusts }
  3. Another group busies people with doubts and debates about when the month of Ramadan starts, when the daily fast should start, the legislation of the prayer and the number of Rak’aat that should be prayed while disregarding the specific evidence for these affairs.

    1. A group of them propagate doubts about relying on the sighting of the moon – which was made to be the start and the end of the month by the Messenger of Allah - صلى الله عليه وسلم - where he stated:

      "Begin the fast [of Ramadan] when you sight the moon, and stop the fast when you sight it. If visibility is low and you cannot see it, complete thirty days of Sha’ban."

      There are those who want to abrogate acting upon the sighting of the moon and rely on astronomical calculations. There are also those who want to link the sighting of the moon with astronomical calculations; if they are not in accordance with each other they care nothing for the sighting.
      In these recent days, some newspapers news published that it would be impossible to sight the moon on Friday night! This is how they placed a judgment on a future matter – something that no one knows except Allah! How many times have they claimed the same, and the opposite of what they propagated came to pass; the moon was sighted on the same night that they claimed it would not be sighted on. This is because, most of the time, there is no doubt about the sighting of the moon, one who sees is not like one who hears:

      {They (the believers) saw them (the disbelievers) with their own eyes twice their number }

      Astronomical calculations are carried out by man, man is prone to erring and deficiency. All our worship is based upon either the sighting of the moon, or the sighting of the break of dawn [for Fajr], or the decline of the sun [for Dhuhr], or the sighting for when a person’s shadow is proportional to him [for ‘Asr], or the sighting for the setting of the sun [for Maghrib], or the sighting for the fading red twilight haze [for the end of Maghrib] for the times of our five daily prayers!
    2. Another group propagates suspicions about the time in which the break of dawn emerges for the Fajr prayer, and the time we should start our daily fast. Indeed Allah the Elevated said:

      { and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears distinct from the black thread (darkness of night) to you}

      This is only done by sighting it with one’s eyesight, which cannot be doubted. Therefore, if the sighting of the moon is not in accordance to astronomical calculations, then astronomical calculations are not to be relied upon.
    3. Another group propagates doubts about the legislation of the Taraweeh, while it has been authentically reported that the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم - prayed it with his companions for two nights, then refrained on the third night for fear that it would be obligated upon them. He never prevented them from praying it in congregation or alone, until it was 'Umar – may Allah be pleased with him – who gathered them behind one Imam during his reign, he did this as the affair that the Messenger - صلى الله عليه وسلم - feared by praying with them was no longer possible. [i.e. after the Messenger - صلى الله عليه وسلم - passed away, it could no longer be obligated.]
    4. Another group propagates doubts about the number of Rak’aat and wants to limit the people to a specific number [1].
      Indeed the Messenger of Allah - صلى الله عليه وسلم - said:

      "Whoever stands for the night prayer in Ramadan, out of faith and eagerness for Allah’s reward would have his past sins forgiven!"

      He did not specify a number of Rak’aat. He - صلى الله عليه وسلم - also said:

      "Whoever stands for the night prayer behind the Imam until he leaves, would have the reward of praying the whole night written for him!"

      Again he did not specify a number; he encouraged people to pray the night prayer while he did not specify a number. What is required is to perfect the prayer, not the number of Rak’aat.
    5. Another group propagates doubts about the Tahajjud prayer at the last part of the night during the last ten days, while the Messenger - صلى الله عليه وسلم - used to exert more effort in practicing righteous actions during the last ten than any other time. When the last ten came in, he would tighten his Izaar (figure of speech meaning be keen on – like "roll up his sleeves".), he would stay up for most of the night, awaken his family and perform other righteous actions as was stated in other Ahadeeth and Athaar transmitted by the Salaf about their Tahajjud prayer during the last ten and how they would elongate it.
This is what I wanted to clarify regarding these issues, I pray that Allah the Magnificent brings these people back to the truth and to what is correct.
And may the Salaat and Salaam be upon our prophet Muhammad, his family and companions.
Written by: Saaleh ibn Fawzaan al Fawzaan.
Member of the Committee of Major Scholars.

[1] This is an area of differing between our scholars and the affair is expansive.

مضان والتشكيكات
المرجع: alfawzan.af.org.sa/node/14028المؤلف :العلامة صالح الفوزان الباب: الصيام
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

وجاء رمضان وجاءت معه التشكيكات

جعل الله سبحانه وتعالى شهر رمضان شهراً للخيرات والبركات والعبادات بأنواع الطاعات، جرت فيه أحداث عظام في تاريخ الإسلام.

قال الله تعالى:

{شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِي أُنزِلَ فِيهِ الْقُرْآنُ هُدًى لِلنَّاسِ وَبَيِّنَاتٍ مِنْ الْهُدَى وَالْفُرْقَانِ}
فيه ليلة خير من ألف شهر وهي ليلة القدر، قال تعالى:
{لَيْلَةُ الْقَدْرِ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَلْفِ شَهْرٍ}

أوجب الله صيامه وسن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قيامه قال صلى الله عليه وسلم:
"من قام رمضان إيمانًا واحتسابا غفر له ما تقدم من ذنبه".
حصلت فيه وقعة بدر الكبرى يوم الفرقان فرق الله بها بين الحق والباطل.
فيه الفتح الأعظم فتح مكة المشرفة.
فيجب أن يعرف لهذا الشهر العظيم قدره ويستغل بالطاعات من صيام وقيام وتلاوة قرآن واعتكاف كما كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يخصه بأنواع الطاعات – إلا أنه في وقتنا الحاضر فرط فيه الكثير من الناس .

فطائفة تعد له البرامج الإعلامية التي أكثرها ضياع للوقت من المسلسلات والتمثيليات والمضحكات والمسابقات والترفيهيات.
وطائفة تنشغل بأنواع المآكل والمشارب فتجعله شهر أكل وشرب وسهر بدل أن يكون شهر صيام وقيام، يسهرون الليل وينامون النهار ويتركون الصلاة المفروضة في أوقاتها فيضيعونها :
{أَضَاعُوا الصَّلاةَ وَاتَّبَعُوا الشَّهَوَاتِ}
وطائفة تنشغل وتشغل الناس بالتشكيك والجدليات في بداية دخول الشهر وبداية الصوم اليومي ومشروعية صلاة التراويح وعدد ركعاتها متخطين في ذلك الأدلة المحددة لهذه الأمور.
فطائفة تشكك في اعتماد رؤية الهلال التي جعلها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بداية لدخول الشهر ونهايته حيث قال صلى الله عليه وسلم:
"صوموا لرؤيته وأفطروا لرؤيته، فإن غم عليكم فأكملوا عدة شعبان ثلاثين يوما"
فهناك من يحاول إلغاء العمل بالرؤية والاعتماد على الحساب الفلكي، وهناك من يحاول ربط الرؤية بالحساب الفلكي فإذا لم توافقه فلا عبرة بها عندهم. وفي هذه الأيام نشرت الصحف أنه تستحيل رؤية الهلال ليلة الجمعة، هكذا حكموا على المستقبل الذي لا يعلمه إلا الله وكم مرة قالوا مثل هذا الكلام وحصل خلاف ما يقولون فرؤي الهلال في الليلة التي نفوا رؤيته فيها، وذلك لأن الرؤية في الغالب لا يدخلها شك، فما رأى كمن سمع،
{ يَرَوْنَهُمْ مِثْلَيْهِمْ رَأْيَ الْعَيْنِ }
والحساب عمل بشري يدخله الخطأ والنقص وعبادتنا كلها مبنية على الرؤية للهلال والرؤية لطلوع الفجر والرؤية لدلوك الشمس، والرؤية لمساواة الظل مع الشخص والرؤية لغروب الشمس والرؤية لمغيب الشفق الأحمر لأوقات الصلوات الخمس.

وطائفة تشكك في دخول وقت صلاة الفجر ووقت بداية الصيام اليومي وقد قال الله تعالى في ذلك:
{كُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّى يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمْ الْخَيْطُ الأَبْيَضُ مِنْ الْخَيْطِ الأَسْوَدِ مِنْ الْفَجْرِ }
وتبين ذلك يكون بالرؤية البصرية التي لا مجال للتشكيك فيها فإذا خالف الحساب الرؤية فلا اعتبار له.

وطائفة تشكك في مشروعية صلاة التراويح وقد صح أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم صلاها بأصحابه ليالي ثم تخلف عنهم مخافة أن تفرض عليهم ولم يمنعهم من صلاتها جماعة وفرادى حتى جمعهم عمر رضي الله عنه في خلافته على إمام واحد لانتفاء المحذور الذي خشيه الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم في صلاتهم معه.
وطائفة تشكك في عدد صلاة التراويح وتريد أن تقصرهم على عدد معين[1]. فقد قال الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم:
"من قام رمضان إيماناً واحتسابا غفر له ما تقدم من ذنبه"
ولم يحدد عدد الركعات، وقال صلى الله عليه وسلم:
"من قام مع الإمام حتى ينصرف كتب له قيام ليلة"
ولم يحدد عددا، ورغب صلى الله عليه وسلم في قيام الليل ولم يحدد عددا والمطلوب إتقان الصلاة لا عدد الركعات.
وبعضهم يشكك في صلاة التهجد من آخر الليل في العشر الأواخر، والرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم كان يجتهد في العشر الأواخر ما لا يجتهد في غيرها، وكان إذا دخل العشر شمر وشد المئزر وأحيا ليله وأيقظ أهله إلى غير ذلك من الأحاديث والأثار الواردة عن السلف في صلاتهم التهجد في العشر الأواخر وإطالتهم فيها – هذا ما أردت بيانه حول هذه المسائل راجيا الله سبحانه أن يرجع هؤلاء إلى الحق والصواب وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه.
كتبه

صالح بن فوزان الفوزان

عضو هيئة كبار العلماء

[1] هذا خلاف مشهور بين علمائنا والأمر واسع.

Source: http://www.subulassalaam.com/articles/article.cfm?article_id=164

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